Crossing over – what happens first

When someone passes away it’s always devastating to us who are left behind. Did you know what happens to our loved ones when they make the journey home?

There have been many times when a loved one will try and communicate with you before you go. Gord, my step dad came to me in a dream the night before he passed. In this “dream” he was stuck inside a closet that had no door. He was walking around inside, bumping into the walls and he said to me ” I don’t know which way to go?”. He was clearly lost, frustrated and not sure what he was doing. Now I have to admit that my dream self didn’t realize this was a visit and not a dream, and of course with watching “The Walking Dead” tv show, my dream self said “Don’t eat the people!!”. I guess in the dream, this apparently made perfect sense. After walking up, I realized it for what it was and had a sense of foreboding the entire day. I drove to the hospital that day and visited with him. (He had been sedated for almost 2 weeks prior because the cancer had caused him to be lucid and anytime he was “awake” he would try and pull out his ports). I talked with him, told him about the dream I had of him and imparted better advice. Telling him we would miss him, and that when he crossed over, he would see my mom and for him to tell her that we miss her too. Gord passed away around 1pm that day. Not even 2 hours after I had left.

So what happens when they have given their last breath? Well, our loved ones do not need to leave right away. Despite no longer having a physical body, they prefer to stay here for 10-14 days. Wanting to ensure that we are the ones okay. They know where they are and happy to go home, but see us being sad for the next part of their journey. They want to ensure that we are processing their passing and accepting of it. That we are accepting of their passing and able to grieve properly. They are also able to say their goodbyes. To leave signs that they are okay.

Most psychics will find it difficult to connect to someone who has crossed over after the 14 day mark. Once they have been gone for longer than 6 months, it feels like you can connect to them again. Why is this? Although there is no time on the other side, there is a process that they go through once they cross over.

After they have said their goodbyes, they go into a holding room on the other side. Think of it as a theatre room. It seats the individual and their Spirit Guide will remain behind them. Providing them love and support as they go through their life review. Sometimes our hard/difficult lessons take a toll on our soul after we cross. Being hard on ourselves on the things we did to ourselves and the people we cared about. This review allows us the bigger picture. The pieces of the puzzle that we were not privileged too on earth. The why’s of what happened to us and why we needed to go through that. This often allows us to not only forgive ourselves, but others as well.

After this life review, our lessons retained we are able to continue with reconnecting to others who have passed before us. Like a little reunion and reconnection!