Category: Connection with a loved one

Dreams – How do our loved ones communicate?

After someone has crossed over to the other side, they are limited with how much help they can provide. Although they have access to your life charts and what you have planned, you have made a point of ensuring that people know what type of help you would be willing to have while you are here.

Dreams are a great source of connection. When we are sleeping, our minds are more open to the messages that we receive. During our waking life, we are busy, more focused on the task at hand and not always aware of the signs they are trying to share!

If your wanting to connect with a loved one through a dream, before you goto bed, there are things you need to do. While laying down, ask your loved one to come to you in a dream. To share insight with you and ask that they let you remember when you wake up! (That part is important! Not everyone remembers their dreams!)

I dream A LOT. Sometimes I wish I could turn it off, and other times I am thankful to have it. Some are insightful, and some are just plain crazy! I wanted to share two dreams that are specific to people who have crossed over.

My mom passed away unexpectedly. March 8, 2010. This was the day after her own fathers funeral. Yes you read that right. The day after we had his funeral. We decided to cremate my mom’s body (yes this is what she wanted) and I remember a conversation with my mom 3 weeks prior to this. It was over the phone and I thought were having a “what if” type of conversation. One of those that you don’t really take seriously. Talking about when she did pass away, that she wanted to be cremated, and that she told me to just throw her ashes in the garbage. I laughed, I remember telling her that was crazy and I obviously wouldn’t do that. It’s here I draw a blank. I remember her giving me a suggestion on where to spread it, but as I did not take the conversation seriously, it escapes me. (I still have her ashes with me.)

It was within two weeks of her passing. I had been helping her husband to get things sorted, and I had a dream that night. She told me in this dream, if I just had waited a few more days to cremate her, she would have come back. I woke up crying. Logically, of course I know this would have been impossible. Her cremation ended up being just shy of a week after she passed. Interpretation? I believe this to be a further indication that they do not want to be considered “dead”. Although our physical body dies, our soul does not.

Fast forward to June 16, 2017. My mom’s husband after a tough battle with cancer in his throat, was at the point where the drs said he would pass “any day now”. He was no longer conscious at this point because of the drs orders and his safety. This night, Gord came to me in a dream. He was standing inside my closet, and walking back and forth in the closet banging into the sides. Back and forth. I remember looking at him and asking him what he was doing. He replied “I don’t know where to go”. (this still makes me tear up, this “dream” is so vivid). My dream self not realizing that this is a visit rather than a dream says “Don’t eat the people!” (Thank you Walking Dead TV Show!)

I headed to the palliative care unit, June 17, 2017 around 9:30am (my 40th birthday!) and even though he wasn’t conscious told him about my dream with him. Explained where he needed to go, and told him, when he seen my mom to tell her that we loved her and missed her a lot. I told Gord how much we loved him, would miss him and read him the eulogy I had wrote about him. I wanted him to know the nice things that would be said about him. I left at 11:30. A phone call came in at 12:30pm telling me that I needed to head back to the palliative care as it looked like it could be any minute. Gord passed away 1:05pm. I didn’t make it back in time.

Your loved ones will use dreams to pass messages, to provide insight and to connect with you so you can still feel them close by. They want us to always feel loved and supported.

Have you had any dreams/messages from your loved ones? Comment below!


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Are they dead? Or have they just “moved on”?

I want to tell you about a dream I had. I wonder if others here have had the same, and this would lead to a fun event to try and connect with the other side. (it’s a long post, but I think worth the read!)

My mom passed away March 8, 2010. I was 33 years old, and as I am 43 years old now, I realize how thankful I am that I got to spend 33 years with her. Her husband passed away June 17th, 2017. The day I turned 40.

I have been thinking of them both a lot lately. Often asking them for guidance as I know our loved ones can leave messages for us especially through dreams or in signs. (Since asking, there have been dimes everywhere, which to me is an indication they are listening!).

My dream on the other hand was hard for me. Here is what happened.

DREAM: I received a phone call. It was from my mom. In my dream, I thought she was dead. I knew it. But the dream me was so thankful to hear from her, all reason seemed to go out of the window. How could this be? How could I be talking to her on the phone. She told me that her and Gord (Her husband) didn’t actually die, they just went somewhere else (moved in the dream) and didn’t want people to know they were alive anymore. That they were together. Of course dream me is hurt, like how could they lead us to believe this entire time that they were dead and have just been here all along.

She then tells me that she has to have surgery and for me to call her the next day at 6:45. I agree and say goodbye, and then wonder if I should be telling my sister, and Gord’s family that he isn’t dead, and that they just moved away.

It’s then that I woke up. It’s hard. Hearing her voice again was so nice, but these visits are hard because you are so thankful that they aren’t dead, only to wake up again realizing that they are not actually physically here.

What is the message from the dream? A reminder that our loved ones are not “dead” but just “moved on”. Their body may no longer be here, but their soul lives on and that’s the message they continue to hammer home.

I have had a few of these dreams now, where my mom has told me if I just waited a few more days to cremate her, she was coming back.. (She had already had “moved on” now for almost a week, so obviously that wouldn’t have happened) To another dream that I had run into my mom at a restaurant with her new family…

As I sit here and type this out, and obviously feeling emotional (and yes crying haha) I thought, what if the number 645 had further meaning.. and decided to google “angel number 645”.

Heavenly presence is manifested by number meaning 645. This represents the angels, fairies, guardian angels and heavenly beings. The occurrence of 645 is a sign that they are watching you. They want you to take the right direction in life.

What are your thoughts? Have you had any dreams of your loved ones who have “moved on”?

I am going to be doing a have event with the people in my facebook group. Working on connecting to our loved ones. Learning how to open up your own gifts for this area. If your interested in opening your own psychic abilities, join our private group on facebook


What happens when we cross over?

I have a lot of clients ask me what happens when we cross over, and if their loved ones know they have died. I hope I can put your mind at ease with what I have been shown. Providing more peace with your loved one’s passing and letting you know that they are safe on the other side.

When someone passes away, regardless of what has caused their passing, whether they were aware of it to happen or not, the first few moments is a bit disorienting. Realizing the people who stand before you are not in a dream because you clue in they had already crossed over. It’s usually your guide who is the first one you see, followed by the people who you cared about in this life time who have gone before you. There is a moment of feeling disappointed, regret of what you didn’t accomplish and the sadness of the people you have left behind. This usually lasts a few minutes, until the realization of why you choose that life to begin with, the life lessons you had chosen and succeed at, and the exit points you had chosen for yourself. Then settles in acceptance and happiness. Your home.

Our loved ones are not sad that they have gone. They worry about us, the ones who are living and struggling with their absence. The ones who are having difficulty with their passing and prevented from being our happier selves. They do not want to be thought of as “dead”. This is a term we use, they prefer “crossed over” or “home”. Dead means gone forever, and that is not the case after you cross over.

I have talked with many other psychics who also do readings on loved ones who have crossed over, and they too say they have difficulty with connecting with someone after they have been gone for 2 weeks. It’s from 2 weeks to the 6 month mark that seems to be more difficult and a bit more cloudy on the information that comes through.

The first two weeks, your loved one is able to “hang around” to ensure that you are coping. To say their goodbyes and do what they can to try and comfort you. Signs and dreams will be strongest during this time. They want you to know they have made it! A song might play on the radio you connect to them, perhaps finding something on the ground you know they had something to do with! After this time frame, they head to the “review” room with their Guide. The image is like a booth that they sit in, it has curtains that close you in and you sit and watch your life here on earth. The moments that really mattered, including the moments you had wished to forget, and understand more fully the impact you had on this life. Did you accomplish your lessons? Was there something more you could have learned. This process is done with only yourself and your main guide. No one else. Your allowed to cry, to ask questions. Formulate whether you would like to return in a new life for any life lessons you might have missed or even to take a break. This review provides you a bit of time to “detox”. Being more connected with your spiritual side and the person you are when you are “home”.

Do you have questions? Comment below


Crossing over – what happens first

When someone passes away it’s always devastating to us who are left behind. Did you know what happens to our loved ones when they make the journey home?

There have been many times when a loved one will try and communicate with you before you go. Gord, my step dad came to me in a dream the night before he passed. In this “dream” he was stuck inside a closet that had no door. He was walking around inside, bumping into the walls and he said to me ” I don’t know which way to go?”. He was clearly lost, frustrated and not sure what he was doing. Now I have to admit that my dream self didn’t realize this was a visit and not a dream, and of course with watching “The Walking Dead” tv show, my dream self said “Don’t eat the people!!”. I guess in the dream, this apparently made perfect sense. After walking up, I realized it for what it was and had a sense of foreboding the entire day. I drove to the hospital that day and visited with him. (He had been sedated for almost 2 weeks prior because the cancer had caused him to be lucid and anytime he was “awake” he would try and pull out his ports). I talked with him, told him about the dream I had of him and imparted better advice. Telling him we would miss him, and that when he crossed over, he would see my mom and for him to tell her that we miss her too. Gord passed away around 1pm that day. Not even 2 hours after I had left.

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So what happens when they have given their last breath? Well, our loved ones do not need to leave right away. Despite no longer having a physical body, they prefer to stay here for 10-14 days. Wanting to ensure that we are the ones okay. They know where they are and happy to go home, but see us being sad for the next part of their journey. They want to ensure that we are processing their passing and accepting of it. That we are accepting of their passing and able to grieve properly. They are also able to say their goodbyes. To leave signs that they are okay.

Most psychics will find it difficult to connect to someone who has crossed over after the 14 day mark. Once they have been gone for longer than 6 months, it feels like you can connect to them again. Why is this? Although there is no time on the other side, there is a process that they go through once they cross over.

After they have said their goodbyes, they go into a holding room on the other side. Think of it as a theatre room. It seats the individual and their Spirit Guide will remain behind them. Providing them love and support as they go through their life review. Sometimes our hard/difficult lessons take a toll on our soul after we cross. Being hard on ourselves on the things we did to ourselves and the people we cared about. This review allows us the bigger picture. The pieces of the puzzle that we were not privileged too on earth. The why’s of what happened to us and why we needed to go through that. This often allows us to not only forgive ourselves, but others as well.

After this life review, our lessons retained we are able to continue with reconnecting to others who have passed before us. Like a little reunion and reconnection!


Loosing a loved one…

This is never an easy time in life. I know that we all look for proof that our loved ones have made it to the other side. Some sort of sign that will bring us comfort that they are okay. I wanted to share 2 of my own experiences that might help you with your own loss and perhaps validate for you that your own experience was real, not a coincidence.

My mom passed away March 8, 2010. I received a call around 10:30pm from her husband Gord. He told me she was having a heart attack and things didn’t look good and that the paramedics were already with them for the last 30 minutes and they would be taking her to the hospital. I am just under an hour away. I get dressed, call my sister and have her head over (she was 10 minutes away) and “flew” down the highway. I don’t know what I was thinking. I just wanted to get there. I wanted to encourage her to fight. I was literally 5 minutes away from her house and as if she was sitting beside me, I heard the words clear as day “Rally racer rally racer”. Her voice as well. It was then that I knew she had crossed over. That racing there was no longer something I needed to do. She was gone.

I arrived at the hospital and they confirmed, they had tried everything, but nothing could be done.

Sheila & Gord
Sheila & Gord

The second time:
My step Dad Gord, had been fighting cancer since November. It was in May that the tumor had grown so large, that it was blocking his airway in his neck and restricting blood flow to his brain. They had no choice but to sedate him, as when alert he would try and pull out all of his ports, any tubes that were helping him to receive oxygen.. anything that would help keep him alive. As a family we had been told by the Dr’s there was nothing further they could do for him, and would have to keep him sedated until he passed away. Through conversations with Gord, he drew the line at being a “vegetable” and had told us he would rather they stopped all life support if that were to happen.
The longest 2 weeks of my life occurred during this time and it was hard to watch. I spent every day at the hospital, talking to him, letting him know I was there. Arranging for other people to visit with him as well. Say their goodbyes. It was June 16th, 2016 that I had a dream of Gord. I realized the next day that this was no ordinary dream. He came to me in a dream, he was “stuck” in this dark closet and was bumping into the walls, going back and forth like a blind person not being able to find their way out. He said “I don’t know where I am supposed to go”. Like all dreams, our imagination goes wild and apparently my dreaming self thought this response was appropriate “Don’t eat the people!” (I watch too much walking dead and obviously thought he was a zombie?!) The next day, I drove to the hospital. It was my 40th birthday. I told Gord about my dream, about what I had said to him and then let him know that my mom was waiting for him. That I loved him, that we would all miss him and to tell my mom I miss her too. I headed home to pick up my kids from school, to get a call from Gord’s daughter in law that she was told that there was signs it could happen any minute. I raced back, and missed him by 10 minutes.

Your loved ones will do their best to show you signs that they are okay. That they made it. Whether it’s manifesting through voice near you, out loud or in your head. Perhaps it’s through a “dream”. Your loved ones will utilize your strengths to connect with you. Too often we think it’s a coincidence. We assume it was wishful thinking. There are a lot of signs that will show you that they are thinking of you and not too far.

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