Crossing over – what happens first

When someone passes away it’s always devastating to us who are left behind. Did you know what happens to our loved ones when they make the journey home?

There have been many times when a loved one will try and communicate with you before you go. Gord, my step dad came to me in a dream the night before he passed. In this “dream” he was stuck inside a closet that had no door. He was walking around inside, bumping into the walls and he said to me ” I don’t know which way to go?”. He was clearly lost, frustrated and not sure what he was doing. Now I have to admit that my dream self didn’t realize this was a visit and not a dream, and of course with watching “The Walking Dead” tv show, my dream self said “Don’t eat the people!!”. I guess in the dream, this apparently made perfect sense. After walking up, I realized it for what it was and had a sense of foreboding the entire day. I drove to the hospital that day and visited with him. (He had been sedated for almost 2 weeks prior because the cancer had caused him to be lucid and anytime he was “awake” he would try and pull out his ports). I talked with him, told him about the dream I had of him and imparted better advice. Telling him we would miss him, and that when he crossed over, he would see my mom and for him to tell her that we miss her too. Gord passed away around 1pm that day. Not even 2 hours after I had left.

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So what happens when they have given their last breath? Well, our loved ones do not need to leave right away. Despite no longer having a physical body, they prefer to stay here for 10-14 days. Wanting to ensure that we are the ones okay. They know where they are and happy to go home, but see us being sad for the next part of their journey. They want to ensure that we are processing their passing and accepting of it. That we are accepting of their passing and able to grieve properly. They are also able to say their goodbyes. To leave signs that they are okay.

Most psychics will find it difficult to connect to someone who has crossed over after the 14 day mark. Once they have been gone for longer than 6 months, it feels like you can connect to them again. Why is this? Although there is no time on the other side, there is a process that they go through once they cross over.

After they have said their goodbyes, they go into a holding room on the other side. Think of it as a theatre room. It seats the individual and their Spirit Guide will remain behind them. Providing them love and support as they go through their life review. Sometimes our hard/difficult lessons take a toll on our soul after we cross. Being hard on ourselves on the things we did to ourselves and the people we cared about. This review allows us the bigger picture. The pieces of the puzzle that we were not privileged too on earth. The why’s of what happened to us and why we needed to go through that. This often allows us to not only forgive ourselves, but others as well.

After this life review, our lessons retained we are able to continue with reconnecting to others who have passed before us. Like a little reunion and reconnection!


Loosing a loved one…

This is never an easy time in life. I know that we all look for proof that our loved ones have made it to the other side. Some sort of sign that will bring us comfort that they are okay. I wanted to share 2 of my own experiences that might help you with your own loss and perhaps validate for you that your own experience was real, not a coincidence.

My mom passed away March 8, 2010. I received a call around 10:30pm from her husband Gord. He told me she was having a heart attack and things didn’t look good and that the paramedics were already with them for the last 30 minutes and they would be taking her to the hospital. I am just under an hour away. I get dressed, call my sister and have her head over (she was 10 minutes away) and “flew” down the highway. I don’t know what I was thinking. I just wanted to get there. I wanted to encourage her to fight. I was literally 5 minutes away from her house and as if she was sitting beside me, I heard the words clear as day “Rally racer rally racer”. Her voice as well. It was then that I knew she had crossed over. That racing there was no longer something I needed to do. She was gone.

I arrived at the hospital and they confirmed, they had tried everything, but nothing could be done.

Sheila & Gord
Sheila & Gord

The second time:
My step Dad Gord, had been fighting cancer since November. It was in May that the tumor had grown so large, that it was blocking his airway in his neck and restricting blood flow to his brain. They had no choice but to sedate him, as when alert he would try and pull out all of his ports, any tubes that were helping him to receive oxygen.. anything that would help keep him alive. As a family we had been told by the Dr’s there was nothing further they could do for him, and would have to keep him sedated until he passed away. Through conversations with Gord, he drew the line at being a “vegetable” and had told us he would rather they stopped all life support if that were to happen.
The longest 2 weeks of my life occurred during this time and it was hard to watch. I spent every day at the hospital, talking to him, letting him know I was there. Arranging for other people to visit with him as well. Say their goodbyes. It was June 16th, 2016 that I had a dream of Gord. I realized the next day that this was no ordinary dream. He came to me in a dream, he was “stuck” in this dark closet and was bumping into the walls, going back and forth like a blind person not being able to find their way out. He said “I don’t know where I am supposed to go”. Like all dreams, our imagination goes wild and apparently my dreaming self thought this response was appropriate “Don’t eat the people!” (I watch too much walking dead and obviously thought he was a zombie?!) The next day, I drove to the hospital. It was my 40th birthday. I told Gord about my dream, about what I had said to him and then let him know that my mom was waiting for him. That I loved him, that we would all miss him and to tell my mom I miss her too. I headed home to pick up my kids from school, to get a call from Gord’s daughter in law that she was told that there was signs it could happen any minute. I raced back, and missed him by 10 minutes.

Your loved ones will do their best to show you signs that they are okay. That they made it. Whether it’s manifesting through voice near you, out loud or in your head. Perhaps it’s through a “dream”. Your loved ones will utilize your strengths to connect with you. Too often we think it’s a coincidence. We assume it was wishful thinking. There are a lot of signs that will show you that they are thinking of you and not too far.

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